How To Break Free From The Mom Comparison Trap:
Raise your hand if you relate to this kind of morning: You wake up at the crack of dawn, hurry the little ones out the door to school and then sit with a cup of coffee scrolling through all the picture-perfect lives of the mothers you follow on Instagram.
Suddenly, you get an overwhelming feeling that you are just not enough. Not enough of a mom, wife, friend, sister, daughter, entrepreneur, or volunteer.
You think, How is SHE doing it all? And looking so great while she’s at it?
What more can I do, what more can I give? How can I do it all better, be more perfect?
And then despite what you know in your heart to be true, that you are a GREAT mom and AMAZING woman, self-doubting thoughts creep up and in and your confidence takes a nose-dive.
It seems like no matter where we look, there are opinions about the right or wrong way to be a mother: in parenting books, blogs, social media mommy-to-mommy groups, at school drop-offs and playdates.
As if giving birth wasn’t already hard enough!
We are told we’re not supposed to let the baby cry it out or switch to formula too soon and that our home should be perfectly organized.
The scary thing is that for every “right way” presented by one expert, there are ten other alternative “right ways” to do it.
And because of this, there’s always another voice challenging you to do it better—which makes motherhood a breeding ground for insecurities and unfair comparisons.
Ughhh. Self-doubt is just so un-sexy.
AND PERFECTION IS THE PROBLEM.
You know it as well as I do, that trying to do everything perfectly stresses you out and makes you miserable.
Seeking perfection—while simultaneously worrying about what others think—drains your enthusiasm, crushes your confidence, and diverts you from your well-deserved pleasure zone. This constant comparing makes you feel less than.
And it’s hard on your relationship, too.
How many date nights have been ruined by endless banter on what other parents are doing better than you and judging yourselves as a result?
Seeking perfection in motherhood and comparing yourself with other mamas can only do one thing: stress you out and turn you off. Our goal here is to turn you back on.
Sure, it’s normal to want to be the best mom you can be and give your children everything they could possibly need, but it’s time to give up on this quest for perfection. It’s one of the most liberating, empowering, thrilling—and yes, sexy—actions you can take for yourself as a woman, mother and partner.
And in today’s video, I’m going to show you the 1st step to do just that: YOU STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER MOMS.
Check out the video and think about where and how you’d adopt my suggestions into your own life.
And then, I want to know: How are you going to throw away the idea of perfection in your life, so that you can live as fully as possible this year? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
XOXO,
Dana
