“We just feel more like roommates than lovers.”
I’ve heard this statement more times than I can count from moms and dads alike.
That natural, flirtatious connection that once existed between you and your partner has faded away. That connection that once said, with just a simple glance, I’m SO into you.
It breaks my heart that parenting could have this kind of effect on two people who were once so enthusiastically in love.
That couples who once couldn’t keep their hands off each other now wonder what the hell happened to their ATTRACTION for each another.
But it’s not a surprise that it happens. It’s NATURAL, actually.
The love hormones that raged when you first met have long settled down.
The bond you’ve formed as parents has created deep love and affection for one another, which makes for a stable, steady family life that your kids need and deserve.
But at the same time, in today’s uber-intense parenting culture, couples often make their children the center of their universe.
As parents, we often feel compelled to center all our attention around our kids’ needs – rather than our own as a romantic couple.
And that sucks the life – and romance! excitement! and lust! – right out of us.
So it should come as no surprise that our attraction eventually fades, or even flatlines.
It’s because, while we love and adore our kids, we become too focused on them. It’s because we get too comfortable in our roles as parents together. We forget to nurture and share the little details of ourselves that once inspired our partners to be so attracted to us. We forget to take risks together, as lovers who also happen to be parents.
But all that comfort & inattention can lead to real trouble, real disconnection… and an irreversible loss of attraction.
And once the attraction is gone? Well then. You’re just sort of living with a roommate.
(And your kids wind up with two unsatisfied parents!)
But, let’s not let that happen, ok?
Let’s not let the spark between you fizzle out, for the sake of you, your partner and your children!
The good news is that you can cultivate attraction again – and it’s easier than you might think.
In this week’s video, I share 3 simple tips to reignite that spark of attraction… no matter how much parenting may have turned it down. These tips are really for you AND your partner, so grab your honey and watch this one together.
After each tip, you’ll find some suggested questions to discuss WITH YOUR PARTNER. Take 20 minutes today to nurture your relationship by exploring these tips with the partner you still love and adore.
And, of course, I want to hear how it goes for you!
Which tip do you think you can start trying today? Which one do you think would be the most challenging? And are there other ways you & your partner have reignited the attraction between you two, already?
Leave a comment under the post here and let me know.
XOXO,
Dana
